Building Self Trust with Love

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Decisions, decisions, decisions…can leave us feeling lost and confused with uncertainty of who or what to believe out there. There is a kind, loving voice within all of us, the real voice of truth. And as you choose to listen to this voice of truth, decisions become easier to make according to your unique truth. 

The challenge is that perhaps past experiences have led us to doubt ourselves and when the voice of truth speaks, the voice of doubt can also show-up to silence that voice of truth. And which voice wins? The one we listen to and act on. As we build self trust, the voice of truth becomes louder than the voice of doubt.

Self Love is the Key

As we learn to love ourselves and practice loving kindness towards ourselves, our self trust grows deeper and deeper. Simple acts of kindness towards ourselves builds trust. What is a simple act of kindness you could show towards yourself today?

Showing up for ourselves

When we commit to learning to love and trust ourselves, it’s vital to remember to show-up for ourselves and to keep our promises to ourselves. Self forgiveness heals when we don’t. Remember to show-up for yourself and forgive yourself when you’re unable to; everything happens for a reason, always. How do you already show-up for yourself?

As we learn to love and trust ourselves by listening to the voice within and showing-up, our trust within grows and synchronicities show-up too ~ Alison Livanos

 

 

Igniting Your Power Within

Power is within

Deep within all of us, there is an infinite supply of power ready to be ignited. We have the power within to choose whether we react to people and situations in anger and fear, thus giving our power away…or to respond with Love and Truth. And as we respond in Love and Truth, we are not only empowering ourselves but we are empowering others too.

Thinking thoughts of love

We think thousands of thoughts a day. When we face people and experiences, we have thoughts which relate back to our own internal belief systems about life. The thought triggers an emotion and the emotion sparks an action. Our internal belief systems were constructed years ago, when we were still children by watching and learning from our parents and other adults around us. These belief systems construct our thoughts, which trigger our emotions and therefore direct our behaviour. As we choose to think loving thoughts, instead of thoughts of fear and anger, we begin to feel at peace and can then respond to challenging people and experiences with love, which in turn attracts experiences back to us which are loving and true to our values. And it all begins with our power to think whichever thought we choose.

As we choose our thoughts wisely and choose to think empowering thoughts of Love and Truth, rather than thoughts of fear and anger; we are empowering ourselves from within.

Trusting yourself

Only you know what’s best for you. And within you is a voice whispering all you need to know. As we choose to listen to the voice within instead of what everyone else says, we are able to make our choices from a place of power, according to the truth that lies within.

Letting go of the past

The point of power always lies in this moment, not in the past. As we are willing to let go of pain, fear, anger, guilt, shame and judgement of others and ourselves related to past experiences, we are physically letting go of emotion which lies trapped within us. As we hold onto the emotions related to the past, we are creating today’s experiences with these. And so we are creating experiences based in pain, fear, anger or shame. As we let go of the past emotions, we make space for the love within us to flow and we are open to receive love from all around us, through every experience.

A good way to release these emotions is to begin by just observing them and then allowing yourself to go into the emotion and truly feeling it, understanding and loving yourself through the experience. Allow yourself to cry without judgement, just love and understanding. Then find appreciation for the experience where the emotion rose from by realizing what you learnt and how it served you. Bring yourself back to this present moment by appreciating your life as it is now and acknowledging yourself for all you are and all you do.

Accepting what you deserve in life

We don’t get what we deserve, we get what we believe we deserve. If you believe that you deserve the best, then that’s what you will get. It all begins with realizing what you would truly love your life to look like and what you would truly love to have. As we begin focussing on what we do believe we deserve and allowing ourselves to accept that, we begin to receive experiences that we truly do deserve. It all begins with the thought: “I am willing to believe that I deserve the best”.

Growing in Love and Truth

Focussing our thoughts on Love; listening to ourselves, letting go of past emotions and accepting what we do really deserve in life, triggers a journey of growth in our experiences of life to move us towards our truth. As we love who we truly are, shadow and light, we begin to live from a place of truth. And as we step into our truth and respond to life with love, we truly begin to step into our power, which empowers others by giving them permission to do the same ~ Alison Livanos

 

Your Time is Your Choice

My time is my choice

Many of us spend our days chasing time. Rushing to drop or fetch children from school. Racing to get to meetings. Stressing about being late. Worrying about meeting deadlines. And when we look again, we ask, “Where did the time go?” When actually, time didn’t go anywhere, we just missed out on the good stuff while we were rushing to chase being on time. The truth is your time is your choice and there is always enough time to do everything we need to do, when we believe it.

There is always enough time

The alarm goes off in the morning and it’s time to get-up and face the day. The thoughts we have in those first few minutes are creating the entire day. A very simple truth of life is what we believe is what will be true for us. If we believe that there is not enough time to get everything we need done, then there won’t be. If we believe that we’re going to be late, then we will be. As a mom of twins and an elder daughter, time has always been a challenge for me, especially in the morning. And particularly when there’s one child that operates at snail pace in the morning. Going into a flat panic, I would shout “there’s not enough time, we’re going to be late” repeatedly until we fought our way through heavy traffic and obstacles; and we would be late, every morning, no matter how much I planned and tried to be on time. Then I changed my first thoughts and words to “We are always on time and we have enough time to do everything we need to do”. The crazy part is since then, no matter how slow my children go, we always seem to be on time, with breakfast eaten and lunches packed.

What do you believe about being on time and having enough time?  What beliefs could you create that would change time for you?

Taking stock of your time

Each day is made up of 24 hours, of which we need to sleep for at least 5 hours for some, and up to 8 hours for others. That leaves with at least 16 hours of awake time. Stop for a second and contemplate what you do with the time that you are awake in the day. And then contemplate whose time you are living on. Consider if your day is filled with tasks which are high on your list of priorities and match your values. Or whether you rush through the day, just getting things done and helping others meet their objectives. When we take stock of our time, we realize how much time we actually have in a day. And we realize that we get to ultimately choose whether we fill our days with tasks we value or that which others value, that’s where our choice lies.

How would you love your day to look, according to your values?

Setting boundaries

After taking stock of how you spend your time, perhaps you’re already filling your day with high priority tasks according to your values and you’re cool. Or perhaps you’ve realised that you spend your days running around meeting other people’s highest values by people pleasing. It’s one thing lending a kind hand to others when in need, yet it’s a completely new story when you are chasing tasks all day purely for acceptance and approval. When we respect ourselves and our time, it’s easy to say “no” to other people’s requests which we really just don’t want to do nor have the time and resources to. And it’s then easier to say “yes” to ourselves and our highest priorities. Remember that if it’s not an absolute Yes, then it’s a definite No.

When do you say yes when you actually want to say no? What boundaries do you need to set in place?

Being “on time” is not always the best time

Consider for a moment the people who were “late” for work on the morning of 9/11. Were they late for work or were they actually perfectly on time because their tardiness actually saved their lives? So often we think we are late for something, when actually we are arriving at the best time for us. Time is a concept constructed by humans to control everything. When we let go of the need to control time and allow ourselves to arrive at the best time for us, we alleviate so much stress and take back our power. A great affirmation, whenever needing to arrive at a certain time or when stressed about being late, is “I have arrived at the best time for me, I am safe”. By doing this, you’re putting yourself at ease, and even if you are “late” according to the standards, you’ll find that when you get there, you’re perfectly on time for yourself, for some reason only you will understand.

How do you feel about arriving “on time”?

Make time for yourself always

Regardless of how many people may pass through your life as friends, family, acquaintances or colleagues, there is only one person who stays with you throughout eternity. You… you are your only true best friend. When we ignore our own needs and requests, in exchange for meeting other’s needs and requests, we are hurting ourselves and constructing a storm of emotions inside, which when let loose, can hurt everyone around us. When we give ourselves the time we need by allowing ourselves precious “me time”, we are respecting and loving ourselves. And when we respect and love ourselves, we feel good. And when we feel good, we are so much stronger and able to take care of our children and all our responsibilities with confidence and ease. Begin with scheduling 5 minutes a day in your diary just for you. And do something you love, regardless of what it is, alone.

What do you love to do that makes you feel good?

 

The truth is that Time is infinite and never ends. Once we’ve spent it, we can’t get it back. As we value ourselves, we value our time. And the more we value our time, the easier it is to decide what we do with it, on our terms. Time is a choice, stay in the moment of now and make each moment count ~ Alison Livanos

 

 

 

Embracing Your Uniqueness

I am Unique

Every human on this planet is authentically unique, a one of a kind, an original. Just like in nature where no two snowflakes are exactly alike. We may, however, not be able to see it because many of us have tried to conform to what we think we should be, do or have. And yet beyond the masks constructed to hide the uniqueness, lies gifts and talents, we didn’t even realize existed.

And so we walk around pretending to be the “right” person or “good” and when our truth shows up, in shadow or in light, we not only ignore it but perhaps even cut it off and dismiss who we really are in fear of not being acceptable.

The truth is that we have all been created authentically with a unique set of gifts, talents and skills and when we are able to accept ourselves for who we are, we embrace our authenticity and we begin realizing the talents and gifts which were hiding within for so long.  As we realise these talents and we embrace them wholeheartedly, we begin to create a life which is authentically ours to enjoy.

Connect with Yourself (And the child within)

We all know how the story goes… life runs away from us and we get so busy in the day to day details of making everything work, that we forget all about ourselves. Deep within all of us is a child, the child we once were, before entering adulthood. The child who wasn’t afraid to be themselves, until someone said something that constructed an otherwise belief. As we connect with ourselves through activities we really love, we connect with that child within. And as we connect with that child within, we discover things about ourselves we forgot about. Perhaps you loved climbing trees as a child, or writing stories or even making mud pies in the garden. The simplest way to reconnect with yourself is to do something that makes you feel good.

What is your favourite way to connect with yourself with fun? What did you love as a child?

Get to Know Yourself

As we get to know ourselves by knowing what we love and what we don’t, we become aware of ourselves. And slowly, the uniqueness we keep within starts to reveal itself.  Take a deep breath and realize what you value most, not what others expect you to value most. Look at what YOU value most. Understand what makes you tick. Daily free writing is a great way to get to know oneself. And all you need to do is arrive at the page and write about what you love and what you don’t.

What do you value most in life?

Learn to Love Yourself

As we get to know ourselves, we may realize some truths we don’t like. Yet, we may realize some we love. The gift lies in the aspects of ourselves that we don’t like too. Because those are our unique aspects that add to who we really are. As we learn to love ourselves, we learn to love every part of ourselves, shadow and light. And as we learn to love every part of ourselves, we begin to unlock gifts and talents we didn’t even realize were there.

What don’t you like about yourself?

What do you love about yourself?

Are you willing to love all aspects of yourself, even those that you may not like?

Embrace your truth

As we embrace the truth of who we are, exactly as we are, we are able to see and understand what it is that we have to offer the world. And as we embrace the uniqueness of what we have to offer the world, we realize that our uniqueness is our greatest gift to the world.

What does the world need that your uniqueness can offer?

Do what you Love, Love what you do

Richard Branson, Steve Jobs, Will Smith, Jim Carrey, Tony Robbins have all said it and live it… along with many other great people who do actually do what they love and get paid well to do it. So there must be some sort of truth in the concept that if we do what we love, the money will follow. Yet it’s still a choice. And then again, many of us think we don’t get to do what we love, right now. And may feel like perhaps it’s only possible for the chosen few. Begin where you are. Look at what you currently do: career, home life, children…all your daily aspects of your life. And then realize what you do love about what you do in your daily life. Realize what the one thing is that you do love about the work that you do everyday, even the tiniest thing. As we learn to love what we do right now, we move towards attracting more of what we love in the now.

What do you love about your current work that you do?

The truth is we are all extremely different, even if we share some similarities. And we all have a unique combination of gifts, talents and abilities that no one else can do exactly as each of us can do. The secret is to commit to realizing these and allow yourself to be a bit more like you each day. And as you commit to unwrapping your gifts, they begin to grow and you attract experiences which are authentically yours to embrace, with a life that is uniquely yours to live ~ Alison Livanos

Claiming Your Life as Yours

It’s my Life

Whose life are you living? Is it yours or is it a construct of what others think it “should” be. Or is a montage of people pleasing to find acceptance. The truth is that it’s your life and you get to choose how you live it. We all have a story but it’s your choice how you perceive your story, either from a victim or a conqueror’s perspective. When you can truly appreciate life for what it is and for how every experience has served you in some way, you can start to create a new story, according to your own truth, instead of other people’s limitations and beliefs.  When we can appreciate life completely for what it is and own it, we find a whole new appreciation for ourselves. When we are able to find a place of responding to outside influences and experiences from a place of love, we take back our power and we stand-up and show the world whose life we are now choosing to live.

Acknowledgement of Yourself

Our positive actions and good so often seem to go unnoticed and we can be left feeling worthless. The truth is that we will only be loved, valued and acknowledged when we love, value and acknowledge ourselves first. Start by writing down ten things that you acknowledge yourself for. It could be the tiniest actions, past or present moment. Feel the appreciation for who you are and what you do. As we begin to acknowledge ourselves for everything that we are, shadow and light; strengths and weaknesses, we claim our power, instead of avoiding the truth of ourselves in shame; and spending our days seeking approval.

What do you acknowledge about yourself?

Appreciation of Life as it is

Take a deep breath, take a look around and truly look at your life for what it is, shadow and light. See the value in all that you have experienced and all that you have. As we begin to appreciate our lives for what we do have and for how our experiences have served us, we step into our power of no longer comparing our lives with others and making excuses for what we don’t have. As we discover an appreciation for the authenticity of experiences had and life as it is, we find the inspiration to create our lives from a place of love and power, instead of a place of fear.

What do you love and appreciate about your life, shadow and light?

Enthusiasm to move forward

Looking towards the future and the exciting experiences that still lie ahead, opens up inspiration to get-up and do our best, authentically. Think about one thing that you have to look forward to, one thing that you are feeling enthusiastic about, from the smallest to the most spectacular. Enthusiasm ignites an inner power that makes us unstoppable, makes us deaf to the naysayers and gives us the strength to walk through the challenges along the way, with confidence and ease.

What are you enthusiastic about, looking forward?

Commitment to YOU

As we commit to ourselves and creating our lives, the way we would love, as well as our own growth and forward movement, we take back our power and it gets easier to choose which experiences we would love to have, and which we would prefer to no longer entertain. As we are aware of what we are committed to with ourselves, it is easier to say “no” to what we don’t want because we are committed to saying “yes” to ourselves and what we do want.

What are you committed to, for yourself?

At the end of it all, it’s your life and you get to choose how you live it. No one else is going to get up each morning, inspired and committed to making your life amazing, only you have the power to do that. Declare your truth, take back your power and create a life that you truly love to live, because you are the one who gets to live it until the end ~ Alison Livanos

 

Alive and Thriving or just surviving?


I am alive

Regardless of where you are on your journey right now and what you may have been through, feel that heart beating in your chest…feel that warm breath inhaling and exhaling…you’re still Alive. The question is are you surviving or thriving? As we proceed along our journeys of growth, there will be times when everything is going extremely well, there will be balanced times and there will be times when you could feel like each day seems to be endless with troubles. And it’s at these times that it’s so easy to play the victim role and survive to push through it all. Or you could choose to step into your power and grow from the learning experience, moving closer towards feeling alive and thriving. And whether we choose to succumb to the pain or rise above it to thrive, that’s all a choice. How can we rise above our challenges and thrive?

Express Gratitude and Appreciation

When we express gratitude and appreciation for that is, we change our feelings within from feeling hopeless to a feeling of balanced unconditional love for life. Take a minute to breathe and think about all the wonderful treasures life has blessed you with. Perhaps you have beautiful children or amazing talents or people who love you…or even a beloved pet who is by your side no matter what. Sit with these for a moment and truly feel how thankful you are for them. And express gratitude and appreciation to the people you love and support you too. Feeling grateful and appreciative for what is, as it is, moves us from a state of fear to a state of love for everything that is, brings us to the present moment; giving us the strength to not only keep going but to keep growing too.

Grow through the emotions

We are all human and therefore we all have emotions, both positive and negative. If someone says they don’t feel emotions, they’re either lying or hiding them. The secret with emotions is to allow them to come, feel them, sit with them, acknowledge them and then release them. We need to feel it to heal it. And when we allow ourselves to feel the emotions, we are healing on a deep level. Allow yourself to have “growing” days and to cry freely and then find the gratitude, rise above the challenges and keep walking.

Go for a walk

Walking?! Yes, real walking. When everything gets too much, pick yourself up and take yourself for a walk. It doesn’t matter if it’s a slow, leisurely walk or a brisk walk at high speed. And it doesn’t matter if you walk for miles or even just around the block, as long as you walk. Walking is great for clearing our minds and for connecting with our inner wisdom.

Connect to Self

When the pressure is on and challenges seem endless, it can be so easy to disconnect from ourselves and get sucked into the drama around us. Take some time out and connect with yourself. Take a few deep breaths and ask yourself what you need to know. Connect your enthusiasm. Commit to loving yourself through the challenges. Recommit to yourself. Remember your truth. Express appreciation for yourself, all you are and all you do. Writing in a journal, walking, meditation, bathing, even gardening…are all great ways to connect with yourself to realize your strength is still there within.

Self-care is vital

Taking care of ourselves is vital when moving through trials and tribulations. Eating nourishing food, drinking loads of water, taking time out to breathe, speaking kindly to ourselves…these are all acts of self-care. Take a look in the mirror and listen to how you speak to yourself. Are you being hard on yourself? Or do you encourage yourself with kind, loving words. It’s so important to support ourselves with loving words instead of harsh critical words which just break us down and make us feel bad. As we speak to ourselves with loving words, we feel better about ourselves and we find the strength to do our best, as well as attracting loving experiences to match our words.

Stay in your Power

Let’s face it, when things don’t seem to be going well, we have emotions hovering under the surface and that’s the most challenging time to face people and experiences around us. And when we react to people and experiences from a place of fear or anger, we are actually giving them our power. We are giving them power over our inner world. Everyone goes through challenges at some point or another and when someone triggers our emotions, it’s time to step away, take a few deep breaths and feel the emotions, acknowledge them, learn from them, appreciate them and let them go. Fill your love tanks and then reply to the person with loving assertiveness. And that’s where the power lies, in our ability to choose whether we react in fear or anger… or respond in Love.

Shift your mind’s focus

It’s easy to focus on everything that is ‘wrong’ and that just keeps us attracting more of what we don’t want. Shift your focus onto what you would love to have. Think about how the experience is serving you and your growth, express appreciation for that, then shift your thoughts to a place of the truth of what you’d love your life to look like.

Remember that life is all about experiencing the contrasts… pain and pleasure, challenge and support, highs and lows… these experiences all remind us that we are still Alive. When we can feel gratitude and appreciation for what is, as it is, find our centre of peace, stay in our power and listen to our experiences with Love, that’s when we grow through the challenges; and move from a place of surviving to a place of thriving ~ Alison Livanos

Flow with the Rhythm of Life…

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Balancing our responsibilities of raising children, work, finances, relationships… can sometimes leave us feeling exhausted and out of sync. As we connect and flow with the rhythm of life through nature…we are able to see the contrast of the experience, appreciate it for what it is and we can find our balance so everything just flows…

How could you connect with the rhythm of life today?

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~ Alison Livanos

Choose to Be Yourself

Be yourself

With so much pressure out there to be, do and have, it’s easy to forget who we are and what we love about ourselves. When we choose to accept and love ourselves just as we are, so much pressure is relieved and we can fly to new heights… #selflove #beyourself

How can you be yourself in this moment?

~ Alison Livanos

Give Yourself Permission to Rest

Permission to rest

When there’s goals to achieve and deadlines to meet, we can get so busy that we forget to take a rest. When we Love ourselves, it is easy to give ourselves permission to rest, fill our tanks and energize so that we can perform at our utmost best… #selflove #permissiontorest

How could you give yourself permission to rest?

~ Alison Livanos

See Yourself with Eyes of Love

Eyes of Love

How do you see yourself when you look in the mirror? So often we see ourselves through eyes of shame, guilt, anger or fear; and when we don’t like what we see, we try ‘fix’ ourselves according to other’s standards. When we see ourselves with eyes of Love, we see that we’re doing our best with the knowledge, awareness and strength we have right now, and we can truly begin to appreciate our true beauty… #selflove #selfacceptance #personalgrowth

What do you Love about yourself when you see through eyes of Love?

~ Alison Livanos