Claiming Your Life as Yours

It’s my Life

Whose life are you living? Is it yours or is it a construct of what others think it “should” be. Or is a montage of people pleasing to find acceptance. The truth is that it’s your life and you get to choose how you live it. We all have a story but it’s your choice how you perceive your story, either from a victim or a conqueror’s perspective. When you can truly appreciate life for what it is and for how every experience has served you in some way, you can start to create a new story, according to your own truth, instead of other people’s limitations and beliefs.  When we can appreciate life completely for what it is and own it, we find a whole new appreciation for ourselves. When we are able to find a place of responding to outside influences and experiences from a place of love, we take back our power and we stand-up and show the world whose life we are now choosing to live.

Acknowledgement of Yourself

Our positive actions and good so often seem to go unnoticed and we can be left feeling worthless. The truth is that we will only be loved, valued and acknowledged when we love, value and acknowledge ourselves first. Start by writing down ten things that you acknowledge yourself for. It could be the tiniest actions, past or present moment. Feel the appreciation for who you are and what you do. As we begin to acknowledge ourselves for everything that we are, shadow and light; strengths and weaknesses, we claim our power, instead of avoiding the truth of ourselves in shame; and spending our days seeking approval.

What do you acknowledge about yourself?

Appreciation of Life as it is

Take a deep breath, take a look around and truly look at your life for what it is, shadow and light. See the value in all that you have experienced and all that you have. As we begin to appreciate our lives for what we do have and for how our experiences have served us, we step into our power of no longer comparing our lives with others and making excuses for what we don’t have. As we discover an appreciation for the authenticity of experiences had and life as it is, we find the inspiration to create our lives from a place of love and power, instead of a place of fear.

What do you love and appreciate about your life, shadow and light?

Enthusiasm to move forward

Looking towards the future and the exciting experiences that still lie ahead, opens up inspiration to get-up and do our best, authentically. Think about one thing that you have to look forward to, one thing that you are feeling enthusiastic about, from the smallest to the most spectacular. Enthusiasm ignites an inner power that makes us unstoppable, makes us deaf to the naysayers and gives us the strength to walk through the challenges along the way, with confidence and ease.

What are you enthusiastic about, looking forward?

Commitment to YOU

As we commit to ourselves and creating our lives, the way we would love, as well as our own growth and forward movement, we take back our power and it gets easier to choose which experiences we would love to have, and which we would prefer to no longer entertain. As we are aware of what we are committed to with ourselves, it is easier to say “no” to what we don’t want because we are committed to saying “yes” to ourselves and what we do want.

What are you committed to, for yourself?

At the end of it all, it’s your life and you get to choose how you live it. No one else is going to get up each morning, inspired and committed to making your life amazing, only you have the power to do that. Declare your truth, take back your power and create a life that you truly love to live, because you are the one who gets to live it until the end ~ Alison Livanos

 

Alive and Thriving or just surviving?


I am alive

Regardless of where you are on your journey right now and what you may have been through, feel that heart beating in your chest…feel that warm breath inhaling and exhaling…you’re still Alive. The question is are you surviving or thriving? As we proceed along our journeys of growth, there will be times when everything is going extremely well, there will be balanced times and there will be times when you could feel like each day seems to be endless with troubles. And it’s at these times that it’s so easy to play the victim role and survive to push through it all. Or you could choose to step into your power and grow from the learning experience, moving closer towards feeling alive and thriving. And whether we choose to succumb to the pain or rise above it to thrive, that’s all a choice. How can we rise above our challenges and thrive?

Express Gratitude and Appreciation

When we express gratitude and appreciation for that is, we change our feelings within from feeling hopeless to a feeling of balanced unconditional love for life. Take a minute to breathe and think about all the wonderful treasures life has blessed you with. Perhaps you have beautiful children or amazing talents or people who love you…or even a beloved pet who is by your side no matter what. Sit with these for a moment and truly feel how thankful you are for them. And express gratitude and appreciation to the people you love and support you too. Feeling grateful and appreciative for what is, as it is, moves us from a state of fear to a state of love for everything that is, brings us to the present moment; giving us the strength to not only keep going but to keep growing too.

Grow through the emotions

We are all human and therefore we all have emotions, both positive and negative. If someone says they don’t feel emotions, they’re either lying or hiding them. The secret with emotions is to allow them to come, feel them, sit with them, acknowledge them and then release them. We need to feel it to heal it. And when we allow ourselves to feel the emotions, we are healing on a deep level. Allow yourself to have “growing” days and to cry freely and then find the gratitude, rise above the challenges and keep walking.

Go for a walk

Walking?! Yes, real walking. When everything gets too much, pick yourself up and take yourself for a walk. It doesn’t matter if it’s a slow, leisurely walk or a brisk walk at high speed. And it doesn’t matter if you walk for miles or even just around the block, as long as you walk. Walking is great for clearing our minds and for connecting with our inner wisdom.

Connect to Self

When the pressure is on and challenges seem endless, it can be so easy to disconnect from ourselves and get sucked into the drama around us. Take some time out and connect with yourself. Take a few deep breaths and ask yourself what you need to know. Connect your enthusiasm. Commit to loving yourself through the challenges. Recommit to yourself. Remember your truth. Express appreciation for yourself, all you are and all you do. Writing in a journal, walking, meditation, bathing, even gardening…are all great ways to connect with yourself to realize your strength is still there within.

Self-care is vital

Taking care of ourselves is vital when moving through trials and tribulations. Eating nourishing food, drinking loads of water, taking time out to breathe, speaking kindly to ourselves…these are all acts of self-care. Take a look in the mirror and listen to how you speak to yourself. Are you being hard on yourself? Or do you encourage yourself with kind, loving words. It’s so important to support ourselves with loving words instead of harsh critical words which just break us down and make us feel bad. As we speak to ourselves with loving words, we feel better about ourselves and we find the strength to do our best, as well as attracting loving experiences to match our words.

Stay in your Power

Let’s face it, when things don’t seem to be going well, we have emotions hovering under the surface and that’s the most challenging time to face people and experiences around us. And when we react to people and experiences from a place of fear or anger, we are actually giving them our power. We are giving them power over our inner world. Everyone goes through challenges at some point or another and when someone triggers our emotions, it’s time to step away, take a few deep breaths and feel the emotions, acknowledge them, learn from them, appreciate them and let them go. Fill your love tanks and then reply to the person with loving assertiveness. And that’s where the power lies, in our ability to choose whether we react in fear or anger… or respond in Love.

Shift your mind’s focus

It’s easy to focus on everything that is ‘wrong’ and that just keeps us attracting more of what we don’t want. Shift your focus onto what you would love to have. Think about how the experience is serving you and your growth, express appreciation for that, then shift your thoughts to a place of the truth of what you’d love your life to look like.

Remember that life is all about experiencing the contrasts… pain and pleasure, challenge and support, highs and lows… these experiences all remind us that we are still Alive. When we can feel gratitude and appreciation for what is, as it is, find our centre of peace, stay in our power and listen to our experiences with Love, that’s when we grow through the challenges; and move from a place of surviving to a place of thriving ~ Alison Livanos