Alive and Thriving or just surviving?

I am alive

Regardless of where you are on your journey right now and what you may have been through, feel that heart beating in your chest…feel that warm breath inhaling and exhaling…you’re still Alive. The question is are you surviving or thriving? As we proceed along our journeys of growth, there will be times when everything is going extremely well, there will be balanced times and there will be times when you could feel like each day seems to be endless with troubles. And it’s at these times that it’s so easy to play the victim role and survive to push through it all. Or you could choose to step into your power and grow from the learning experience, moving closer towards feeling alive and thriving. And whether we choose to succumb to the pain or rise above it to thrive, that’s all a choice. How can we rise above our challenges and thrive?

Express Gratitude and Appreciation

When we express gratitude and appreciation for that is, we change our feelings within from feeling hopeless to a feeling of balanced unconditional love for life. Take a minute to breathe and think about all the wonderful treasures life has blessed you with. Perhaps you have beautiful children or amazing talents or people who love you…or even a beloved pet who is by your side no matter what. Sit with these for a moment and truly feel how thankful you are for them. And express gratitude and appreciation to the people you love and support you too. Feeling grateful and appreciative for what is, as it is, moves us from a state of fear to a state of love for everything that is, brings us to the present moment; giving us the strength to not only keep going but to keep growing too.

Grow through the emotions

We are all human and therefore we all have emotions, both positive and negative. If someone says they don’t feel emotions, they’re either lying or hiding them. The secret with emotions is to allow them to come, feel them, sit with them, acknowledge them and then release them. We need to feel it to heal it. And when we allow ourselves to feel the emotions, we are healing on a deep level. Allow yourself to have “growing” days and to cry freely and then find the gratitude, rise above the challenges and keep walking.

Go for a walk

Walking?! Yes, real walking. When everything gets too much, pick yourself up and take yourself for a walk. It doesn’t matter if it’s a slow, leisurely walk or a brisk walk at high speed. And it doesn’t matter if you walk for miles or even just around the block, as long as you walk. Walking is great for clearing our minds and for connecting with our inner wisdom.

Connect to Self

When the pressure is on and challenges seem endless, it can be so easy to disconnect from ourselves and get sucked into the drama around us. Take some time out and connect with yourself. Take a few deep breaths and ask yourself what you need to know. Connect your enthusiasm. Commit to loving yourself through the challenges. Recommit to yourself. Remember your truth. Express appreciation for yourself, all you are and all you do. Writing in a journal, walking, meditation, bathing, even gardening…are all great ways to connect with yourself to realize your strength is still there within.

Self-care is vital

Taking care of ourselves is vital when moving through trials and tribulations. Eating nourishing food, drinking loads of water, taking time out to breathe, speaking kindly to ourselves…these are all acts of self-care. Take a look in the mirror and listen to how you speak to yourself. Are you being hard on yourself? Or do you encourage yourself with kind, loving words. It’s so important to support ourselves with loving words instead of harsh critical words which just break us down and make us feel bad. As we speak to ourselves with loving words, we feel better about ourselves and we find the strength to do our best, as well as attracting loving experiences to match our words.

Stay in your Power

Let’s face it, when things don’t seem to be going well, we have emotions hovering under the surface and that’s the most challenging time to face people and experiences around us. And when we react to people and experiences from a place of fear or anger, we are actually giving them our power. We are giving them power over our inner world. Everyone goes through challenges at some point or another and when someone triggers our emotions, it’s time to step away, take a few deep breaths and feel the emotions, acknowledge them, learn from them, appreciate them and let them go. Fill your love tanks and then reply to the person with loving assertiveness. And that’s where the power lies, in our ability to choose whether we react in fear or anger… or respond in Love.

Shift your mind’s focus

It’s easy to focus on everything that is ‘wrong’ and that just keeps us attracting more of what we don’t want. Shift your focus onto what you would love to have. Think about how the experience is serving you and your growth, express appreciation for that, then shift your thoughts to a place of the truth of what you’d love your life to look like.

Remember that life is all about experiencing the contrasts… pain and pleasure, challenge and support, highs and lows… these experiences all remind us that we are still Alive. When we can feel gratitude and appreciation for what is, as it is, find our centre of peace, stay in our power and listen to our experiences with Love, that’s when we grow through the challenges; and move from a place of surviving to a place of thriving ~ Alison Livanos

Believe in Possibilities

13 November

Possibilities are everywhere, when we believe they are. Opportunities can show-up in the most unlikely places, when we are aware. Experiences happen that don’t seem so favourable and we get stuck in the “I can’t” and it is so easy to get stuck in a moment and stop believing in ourselves and possibilities. When we are stuck in this place, we close our eyes to possibilities which lie right in front of us, yet when we believe in ourselves and in miracles, doors seem to open in the most unexpected places. We create our own barriers by standing in our own way.

How do we move beyond the barriers to possibilities?

Let go of the past

Life happens to everyone, that’s how we learn. Everyone makes mistakes, that’s also how we learn new things. Everyone has a story, that’s how we grow to become the people we need to be. The challenge is that so often we get stuck in the should’ve, could’ve, would’ve and we forget that we’re only human and humans make mistakes to learn. Start by being willing to forgive everyone, including yourself. Let go of the anger and resentment of what “they” did to you. Let go of the guilt of what you think you may or may not have done “wrong”. Then begin to live in the present moment. Yesterday is done, tomorrow is still to come, your power lies in this present moment and the choices you make right now.

Examine your beliefs

The thoughts we think and the words we speak, are creating all of our experiences. As children, our minds were like tape recorders, recording every word and experience through the meaning we made of it. Then we construct beliefs based on these experiences. Mothers, fathers, teachers, preachers may have done something or said something that made you believe that “you’re not good enough” or perhaps that life is hard and the only way to succeed is by criticizing yourself and making yourself work hard. These are their beliefs and you don’t need to keep them. These are barriers blocking your success. Have a good look at your beliefs and if they are negative, realize that you are creating your experiences with these beliefs. And if you’d like to move forward, perhaps it’s time to move through the barriers created by your own thoughts, words and emotions, by creating some wonderful positive beliefs for yourself.

Find gratitude in the moment

Stop and take a deep breath. Now think about everything you do have to be grateful for. And think about what you have learn’t from your past experiences and feel gratitude for how these experiences have made you the amazing, strong person you are today. Practice gratitude for the smallest things in every moment, even the challenging ones. You’ll be amazed that the more you are grateful, the more you receive to be grateful for.

Make a commitment to yourself with enthusiasm

This is your life and you only get to live this life once. Make a list of everything you’d love to have, do and be in your life. Imagine the possibilities. Feel the feeling of living a life you love. Then make a commitment to yourself to take at least one little step at a time to move in the direction of your dreams. The very first step is to just be willing to change. It’s your life, it’s your choice how you get to live it. Take back your power and create a life you love to look at ~ Alison Livanos 

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