Love Being You

30 October

Can you imagine how wonderful it would be if you could live your life without ever being criticized by anyone? Wouldn’t it be wonderful to feel totally at ease, totally comfortable? You would get up in the morning and you would know you were going to have a wonderful day, because everybody would love you and nobody would put you down. You would just feel great. 

You know what? You can give this to yourself. You can make the experience of living with you the most wonderful experience imaginable. You can wake up in the morning and feel the joy of spending another day with yourself ~ Louise Hay 

As we learn to love ourselves, we learn about what we really love about ourselves. The trick is to accept ourselves exactly as we are and to release the need to always be perfect. When we release the need for perfection, we begin to allow ourselves to be ourselves. Perfectionism is merely the outcome of listening to that inner critic, who is telling us that we’re wrong. And that inner critic is programmed by years of criticism we received as children. And how do we silence the inner critic? Connect with your inner child and tell her that you love her. And do what she loves to do. Then slowly, one step at a time, allow yourself to express your creativity through that inner child. Allow your inner child a voice and that is louder than the inner critic. Release all criticism. Nurture through play. Create something beautiful, without perfection. Love yourself enough to allow yourself to be yourself. And just love being you ~ Alison Livanos

Express Your Creativity Freely

I express my creativity freely

Creativity is a natural force of life. Just look at nature and all the magnificent creations that she gives us: the flowers, the trees, the birds, the sunrises and sunsets, which are all one of a kind; and realise that you are part of that. The truth is that we are all creative beings who have been created to continue creating, whether we believe it or not (www.theartistsway.com). We all have an innate ability to be creative, we just choose to ignore it or to express it. We all have incredible gifts and talents within, just waiting to be explored and connecting with your creativity, brings these to light.

So how can you connect with your creativity?

1. Change your Beliefs

As children, we are all creative artists. And then we create negative beliefs about art and creativity through how we interact with the world. Well-meaning adults tell us to explore "proper" career options and we believe that creativity is only fluff around the edges of "real life". Or we were criticized somewhere along the way and we believe we're not good enough and shut the door to our unique gifts and talents which are still waiting to be discovered. Look in the mirror and affirm I am a creative being and listen to the thoughts that come up. Those are your beliefs and can be changed with positive, new beliefs (www.LouiseHay.com). Affirm: I am willing to believe that I am creative. It is safe for me to be creative.

2. Be willing to Learn

As children, we were so open to learning new things, it was a natural process; and as adults, we still have the ability to learn new things, if we are willing. Connecting with creativity is a process and when we are willing to learn, miracles show-up and we experience synchronicities which guide us in the best direction to continue our learning. Affirm: I am willing to learn how to be creative.

3. Show-up and Create

The best way to connect with your creativity is to just show-up at the page and create. Make a list of all the things you loved to do as a child: baking, cooking, painting, beading, gardening, sewing, drawing, colouring, even doodling, to name a few. Then pick one of these to start with and bring it into your daily life. You could bake some cookies and ice them beautifully. Plant some seedlings in your garden. Or even buy some stickers of something you love and stick them in your diary to brighten your day. You could even ask your children to teach you how to colour-in or draw and then you get to spend some quality time with your children while you're at it. It's a process and it all begins with being willing to take the first, small step, then the next steps will show-up (www.theartistsway.com). Affirm: I am willing to create.

My own journey with my creativity has been incredible. I always knew I was creative but I believed that I wasn't creative "enough" and creative jobs are only reserved for the best artists and I wasn't one of them. I grew up surrounded by negativity about artistic careers and therefore thought I had to find a "proper" job to be able to make money because creativity is only for hobbies and real creative people. I spent most of my career finding ways to be creative in my jobs, never realising at the time that I am creative and I can have a creative career if I choose it to be so. And I started small with simple ways of being creative in my daily life. I baked my children's birthday cakes and created amazing parties. I gardened and I sewed dresses for my girls. And slowly, but surely, my gifts and talents started unfolding and my journey still continues. I now express my creativity freely and the more I express my creativity through dancing, painting, cooking and gardening, the more my creativity flows and the more good I can create in the world ~ Alison Livanos 

Read more: www.healyourlifesouthafrica.co.za; www.louisehay.com; www.theartistsway.com