Regardless of where you are on your journey right now and what you may have been through, feel that heart beating in your chest…feel that warm breath inhaling and exhaling…you’re still Alive. The question is are you surviving or thriving? As we proceed along our journeys of growth, there will be times when everything is going extremely well, there will be balanced times and there will be times when you could feel like each day seems to be endless with troubles. And it’s at these times that it’s so easy to play the victim role and survive to push through it all. Or you could choose to step into your power and grow from the learning experience, moving closer towards feeling alive and thriving. And whether we choose to succumb to the pain or rise above it to thrive, that’s all a choice. How can we rise above our challenges and thrive?
Express Gratitude and Appreciation
When we express gratitude and appreciation for that is, we change our feelings within from feeling hopeless to a feeling of balanced unconditional love for life. Take a minute to breathe and think about all the wonderful treasures life has blessed you with. Perhaps you have beautiful children or amazing talents or people who love you…or even a beloved pet who is by your side no matter what. Sit with these for a moment and truly feel how thankful you are for them. And express gratitude and appreciation to the people you love and support you too. Feeling grateful and appreciative for what is, as it is, moves us from a state of fear to a state of love for everything that is, brings us to the present moment; giving us the strength to not only keep going but to keep growing too.
Grow through the emotions
We are all human and therefore we all have emotions, both positive and negative. If someone says they don’t feel emotions, they’re either lying or hiding them. The secret with emotions is to allow them to come, feel them, sit with them, acknowledge them and then release them. We need to feel it to heal it. And when we allow ourselves to feel the emotions, we are healing on a deep level. Allow yourself to have “growing” days and to cry freely and then find the gratitude, rise above the challenges and keep walking.
Go for a walk
Walking?! Yes, real walking. When everything gets too much, pick yourself up and take yourself for a walk. It doesn’t matter if it’s a slow, leisurely walk or a brisk walk at high speed. And it doesn’t matter if you walk for miles or even just around the block, as long as you walk. Walking is great for clearing our minds and for connecting with our inner wisdom.
Connect to Self
When the pressure is on and challenges seem endless, it can be so easy to disconnect from ourselves and get sucked into the drama around us. Take some time out and connect with yourself. Take a few deep breaths and ask yourself what you need to know. Connect your enthusiasm. Commit to loving yourself through the challenges. Recommit to yourself. Remember your truth. Express appreciation for yourself, all you are and all you do. Writing in a journal, walking, meditation, bathing, even gardening…are all great ways to connect with yourself to realize your strength is still there within.
Self-care is vital
Taking care of ourselves is vital when moving through trials and tribulations. Eating nourishing food, drinking loads of water, taking time out to breathe, speaking kindly to ourselves…these are all acts of self-care. Take a look in the mirror and listen to how you speak to yourself. Are you being hard on yourself? Or do you encourage yourself with kind, loving words. It’s so important to support ourselves with loving words instead of harsh critical words which just break us down and make us feel bad. As we speak to ourselves with loving words, we feel better about ourselves and we find the strength to do our best, as well as attracting loving experiences to match our words.
Stay in your Power
Let’s face it, when things don’t seem to be going well, we have emotions hovering under the surface and that’s the most challenging time to face people and experiences around us. And when we react to people and experiences from a place of fear or anger, we are actually giving them our power. We are giving them power over our inner world. Everyone goes through challenges at some point or another and when someone triggers our emotions, it’s time to step away, take a few deep breaths and feel the emotions, acknowledge them, learn from them, appreciate them and let them go. Fill your love tanks and then reply to the person with loving assertiveness. And that’s where the power lies, in our ability to choose whether we react in fear or anger… or respond in Love.
Shift your mind’s focus
It’s easy to focus on everything that is ‘wrong’ and that just keeps us attracting more of what we don’t want. Shift your focus onto what you would love to have. Think about how the experience is serving you and your growth, express appreciation for that, then shift your thoughts to a place of the truth of what you’d love your life to look like.
Remember that life is all about experiencing the contrasts… pain and pleasure, challenge and support, highs and lows… these experiences all remind us that we are still Alive. When we can feel gratitude and appreciation for what is, as it is, find our centre of peace, stay in our power and listen to our experiences with Love, that’s when we grow through the challenges; and move from a place of surviving to a place of thriving ~ Alison Livanos